Writing

WHY IT’S BETTER TO OWN UP TO MISTAKES

(The French Vanilla Pork Incident of 1998) When I was about 13 or 14 years old my mother made a pork cutlet in a recipe that called for half and half. She was out of half and half and rather than go to the store, she substituted...

I FINALLY STOPPED CHEATING WHEN….

I fully owned who I am, and how I relate: I owned my own unique s*xuality. Before this, I was blocked up with a bunch of stories such as these: ✔️ It’s not okay to have s*x with multiple people if you are partnered. ✔️ It’s not okay to...

Why Non-monogamy is Dangerous

It's not dangerous for the reasons you might think: --It's not dangerous because you are more likely to "lose" your partner. --It's not dangerous because it's bad for your kids. (quite the opposite--polyamorous families report MORE parental time with children) --It's not dangerous because of all the immature...

Ever Been Told You’re “In Your Masculine?”

I have. As if that would shut me up. ? ⚔️ ❤️ For years I got flak from people for being “too masculine,” that my assertive, bold, directive, truth telling, intense, passionate, expressive parts were bad or wrong. The result: I spent years trying to fix those parts, do...

Men, Your Feminine Is Worthy of Love

We are consistently sold through a million channels that our value is in our ability to provide, our ability to be STRONG, our capacity to make others happy. I've seen it labeled our "Masculine Core," our "True Self" or what-have-you. And, on the inside, a part of us...